Words of Wisdom: Parts 1 & 2

Words of Wisdom, part 1.

A friend sent me the following and I felt it was good enough to share it with all of you.  My personal favorites are numbers 17 and 30.

HANDBOOK 2010

Health:
1.       Drink plenty of water.
2.       Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a  beggar.
3.       Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants..
4.       Live with the 3 E’s — Energy, Enthusiasm and Empathy
5.       Make time to pray
6.       Play more games
7.       Read more books than you did in 2009 .
8.       Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day
9.       Sleep for 7 hours.
10.     Take a 10-30 minute walk daily. And while you walk, smile.

Personality:
11.    Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
12.    Don’t have negative thoughts on things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive, present moment.
13.    Don’t over do. Keep your limits.
14.    Don’t take yourself so seriously.  No one else does.
15.    Don’t waste your precious energy on gossip.
16.    Dream more while you are awake
17.    Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
18.    Forget issues of the past. Don’t remind your partner about his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
19.    Don’t hate others. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
20.    Make peace with your past so it won’t spoil the present.
21.    No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
22.    Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn.  Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
23.    Smile and laugh more.
24.    You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

Society:
25.    Call your family often.
26.    Each day give something good to others.
27.    Forgive everyone for everything.
28.    Spend time with people over the age of  70 & under the age of  6.
29.    Try to make at least three people smile each day.
30.    What other people think of you is none of your business.
31.    Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.

Life:
32.    Do the right thing!
33.    Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.
34.    However good or bad a situation is, it will change..
35.    No matter how you feel; get up, dress up and show up.
36.    The best is yet to come.
37.    Your inner most self is always happy. So, be happy.

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Words of Wisdom, part 2

This part is on marriage.  Specifically, my thoughts on how to have a lasting marriage.

While DH and I were still in the honeymoon phase of our marriage, some friends of his had a talk with me about marriage.  They had informally determined, between themselves, that the years of marriage from 5-7 were the hardest of their married lives.  They informed me that those would be the years when we would want to give up on our marriage and that we would have to work hard during those years to stay together.

Well, I married a man whose ancestry has been full blooded German and they’re stubborn as the Rock of Gibralter itself.  I being half German and half Scandinavian had my share of stubborn and I could stoically suffer anything (or make him stoically suffer anything- – -depends on whose view you agree with).  So we made it through the tough years of marriage, numbers 4-10 for us.  I did mention we were both stubborn, right.  You caught that part didn’t you?  Yes, our rough patch was a bit longer than they had let on.

But DH & I were lucky.  When we got married, his great aunt & uncle were at the ceremony even though they were trying to get the last minute preparations finished in time to celebrate their own 50th wedding anniversary the next day.  I always felt that Joe & Dorothy were our good luck charm.  It has to be a good omen to have a couple celebrating 50 years of marriage when you and your spouse are just embarking on your journey.

I simply never realized this fully until recently.  You see both Joe & Dorothy have since passed away.  But Dorothy was always a good person to go to for advice even though we didn’t see them often.  She also was one who liked to tease you a bit.  She would have been a hoot to know as a kid.  Dorothy would give very practical advice, if you asked for her opinion.  If you complained about men and how they always do this or that annoying thing, Dorothy would smile and say; “Yes, men are like that sometimes.”  If you were going through a particularly rough patch, she’d look at you and say; “Don’t worry dear, this too shall pass.” 

And even now, after she’s gone, I still know that if I went to Dorothy and told her about how well DH and I have managed lately, how good our marriage is right now and how I’m glad that I stuck it out and didn’t quit.  I’m certain that I would see a little twinkle in her eye and a slight smile on her lips before she said; “Don’t worry dear, this too shall pass.”  LOL

Thanks Dorothy, for the great example you and Joe where to us.  My wish for all of you is that you take the time to really get to know other couples who have been married a good deal longer than you have been.  They are the ones who can look back on the journey with perspective and wisdom.  Yes, you may run into some of the ones who will swear that if they had to do it all over again, they would never do it.  Ignore them my dears, every vineyard has a few sour grapes.  Cultivate relationships with the Joe & Dorothy’s of this world.  They are the fruitful ones.

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